Monday, June 1, 2009

Grandma Knows Best

I had a good weekend overall. The party wasn't as bad as expected. I actually talked to my friend's boyfriend's sister most of the time and she was really nice! We chatted some about babies and it was nice to hear a 3rd party perspective.

Saturday morning I met my mom at my grandma's (her mother) house. Well, not her house but her boyfriend's/husband's? I'm not really sure if they are formally married or not. I don't really care for him though. (My grandpa, my mom's dad, died when I was a baby) But that is a story for another day.

Anyways, my mom goes there every third Saturday morning to clean and bath my grandma. She is in her 80's and has dementia. So she needs help with the little things and all her daughters are on a rotation. Well, I shouldn't say all, three of her five daughters.

Apparently my mom told my grandma about DH and I trying because it came up later on that morning. (I am of course, still having doubts. Not a surprise. We did still try once this weekend and I'm hoping to again tonight. Wow, ok, that is way too much information to tell the Internet. I'd retract that if I wasn't too lazy to go back and delete.) So I quickly blabbered on to my grandma about Pain! and Money! and...uh...I was basically trying to make excuses for why trying was a bad idea. Which I have been doing from day one and then I spend all morning googling "Dr. Seuss Nursery". I know, I have issues.

My dear, dear grandma responded saying that as far as pain goes "You'll do fine" and as for money? "The lord provides for those who need it. Why your grandpa and I had 6 kids and not enough money and look how they turned out? It was the best years of my life and I would go back and do it all over again in a second."

The pep talked helped. I still have those lingering doubts but the thought of putting my grandma's first great-grandchild in her arms helps make them just a little bit smaller.


  1. Awww, that is very sweet advice. I agree completely. No one EVER feels like they have enough money for a baby, apparently, but you just make it work.

    I think it's all a matter of scale -- a very wealthy couple would buy the best of everything, all brand-new. People with less money might buy some things used, borrow items, etc. Either way, the baby has everything it needs -- it's just a matter of what you can afford.

    That's how we're trying to think of it, anyway!

  2. I agree! And yesterday I looked over our finances and it looks like we'll be ok. We are in so much better shape then we were just last year!